My name is Golab and I’m a rescue. I was
adopted from a shelter by this wonderful family, my new human parents. I don’t know how old I am but I can’t
be too old as I still remember the abuse I suffered
before I was rescued. All is too fresh in my memory.
I love my humans and they love me. I’m
happy and at peace as you can see in the photo attached. I’m treated like
royalty. I take pride in my humans and my home. But, I have an issue; for whatever reasons I claw everybody
else visiting my humans.
I know my humans are worried and perhaps
upset. I don’t know how to tell them that I’m afraid of other people, I don’t
trust other people and each time they have company I panic that the company
will take them away from me and I’ll be abandoned and abused again. I’m not
possessive or jealous, I’m just scared.
George, the problem is that they will have
family from overseas visiting soon and they are thinking of renting a flat just
for me so they will come daily to visit me and spend time together. This is
very generous of them but I don’t want to live in a flat for three months.
George, this is a very serious matter and I need your expertise.
Firstly, why do you think I act like
this….clawing everybody visiting them?
Secondly, what should I do? Is there
anything I can do or they can do so?
How can we all live in peace (visitors
included)?
In distress
Golab
Dear Golab,
Some of us are one-human cats. We love our human pets, but we don't love or even much like any other human. Well, it's natural, isn't it? Those of us who were in animal shelters have often seen the worst side of human nature - humans throwing things at us, humans shouting, and sometimes cats have even been tortured in the microwave by sick human beings. Feral humans can be vile,much more evil than any animals.
I expect it took you time to learn to trust again. Now you do trust your new human pets, which is wonderful. I am sure that they have responded to your growing confidence and love.
Now it is time for them to look after you. Renting a special flat for you isn't exactly what you want. You'd prefer if they rented the flat for these visiting humans! However, that might not happen. Perhaps they would think of a cattery - not much fun for you, but if you have been in a rescue shelter you probably at least know the score.
If none of this happens, find a safe area in your home - under your humans' bed, on a high cupboard in the spare room, in a box cut to make a hidey hole or perhaps on a bookshelf somewhere. Settle in there. If you can, purrsuade your humans to keep the visitors away from your space. Maybe they could even give you a room of your own for a bit with your own litter tray, food and water, and a familiar bed. A Feliway diffuser would help too.
Tell them to tell the visitors to ignore you. If they are staying a long time, you may feel confident enough to come out and take a look at them.
Yours
George
I expect it took you time to learn to trust again. Now you do trust your new human pets, which is wonderful. I am sure that they have responded to your growing confidence and love.
Now it is time for them to look after you. Renting a special flat for you isn't exactly what you want. You'd prefer if they rented the flat for these visiting humans! However, that might not happen. Perhaps they would think of a cattery - not much fun for you, but if you have been in a rescue shelter you probably at least know the score.
If none of this happens, find a safe area in your home - under your humans' bed, on a high cupboard in the spare room, in a box cut to make a hidey hole or perhaps on a bookshelf somewhere. Settle in there. If you can, purrsuade your humans to keep the visitors away from your space. Maybe they could even give you a room of your own for a bit with your own litter tray, food and water, and a familiar bed. A Feliway diffuser would help too.
Tell them to tell the visitors to ignore you. If they are staying a long time, you may feel confident enough to come out and take a look at them.
Yours
George
You are right on with your advice pal. Hope something works out for this little kitty.
ReplyDeleteI had exactly same problem Golab! I still have it but only once in a while. My human was very worried and upset ...but eventually got used to it :-)
ReplyDeleteI came from a shelter too.
Hugs
Vegas
I like the idea of a spare room in your house better than renting a flat as you might think you have been abandoned again.
ReplyDeleteAnd, with your humans supervision, you can spend some time in the same room with their visitors.
I wish humans be less social, don't you? :-)
Diego
Dear Golab, you look lovely!
ReplyDeletePlease tell your humans to try Rescue Remedy - a Bach Flower essence and homeopathic remedy for anxiety, stress relieve, etc.
Two drops on your ears will do the work. Being a homeopathic remedy they can use it as often as needed with no side effects.
Don't touch the dropper with your fur, paws or their hands though.
Two drops on your ear and they can gently rub it in. Feliway is good too. They can use a feliway diffuser and Rescue Remedy on your ears. Sooner the better as they want to see if you are less stressed and can tolerate their visitors :-)
Love
Fluffy
Maybe they can engage you in more "play time" especially in the evenings? Also, they may encourage their visitors to not pay too much attention to you at the beginning but if you are approach them ...encourage them to talk and play with you?
ReplyDeleteIf they react to your attacks with fear...that will scare you even more.
Tom
Golab, you are beautiful!
ReplyDeleteHope your humans will find a solution.
Frederico
Do they "clip" the tip of your nails? This is what I call a "cat's manicure" and makes you less frightening for visitors. Also less "scratch" signatures on furniture:-)
ReplyDeleteBut, NEVER DECLAW A CAT -that's mutilation.
Minnie
Golab! You look very Royal to me. We must be related!
ReplyDeleteYes, Your Highness....you deserve your own room and staff (to serve you...even if you shred them to pieces) :-)
CAT Victoria
Yup, I was born feral and it took me FOREVER to let anyone but my own two personal peeps to see me. Even in the safety of my own home! It's gotta be on YOUR schedule and not theirs. That's just the way it has to be.
ReplyDeletePurrs,
Nissy
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